During my early university years, my favorite hobby was to swipe on Tinder.
The app was full of young and hot university guys. It was like a menu with a wide variety of options ready for me. Tinder was an adventure because I met countless people — from one-night stands to good friendships. With all its faults, Tinder was an effective way to meet people.
One of the most remarkable guys I met was Ted.
We matched and started a friendly conversation — so far, nothing unusual. Ted was a business major, a very confident guy. On the Tinder chat…
First dates are a box of surprises.
When you meet a guy on a dating app and decide to meet him, you never know what you’ll get. What if he’s a catfish? What if he looks worse in real life than in pictures? Even better: what if he’s more attractive in person?
Chatting can help you to form a more accurate picture of the person.
After all, our personalities highly affect how attractive we are — we tend to perceive extroverted people as more good-looking. …
The environment dictates our behavior.
If you are at the gym, chances are you’ll work out. If you’re at work, chances are you’ll do your job. If you’re at a library, chances are you’ll read. You get the idea.
The problem for writers is that we usually write at home.
And your home is not the best environment to write. At home, it’s easy to feel distracted: it’s not a place traditionally associated with work. Many times I caught myself doing housework or scrolling down my phone when I should be writing.
It’s a combination of two small tricks. First…
Loving someone for their attractive qualities is easy.
Everyone likes the idea of having a good-looking, charming, and intelligent partner. These are the easy parts to accept — they are what made you fall in love in the first place.
But what about the things you don’t like?
Loving what makes us different is the biggest challenge in my relationship. Recently, I faced a dilemma with my boyfriend, Jonathan. On a regular Wednesday, he texts me in the middle of the afternoon: “Hey, my friends want to hang out tonight. Wanna join them?”
The sight made me cringe.
Last night, I felt insanely stressed from work. My to-do list grew exponentially, while my energy was lower with every box I checked. When I got home, I had no brain cells left. So I opened a bottle of wine and unlocked my phone screen.
Except, instead of going for Instagram, I opened my photos app.
I always find it comforting to look back at my experiences and remember the good times. It’s an interesting comparison to see how much I’ve changed over the years.
I scrolled until I found a picture of my first date with my boyfriend, Jonathan.
Have you ever thought of the qualities of people who cheat?
Last weekend, I encountered a situation that forced me to reflect on it. I spent the night with my best friend, Linda, to catch up. It had been a while since the last time we were alone, and we had a lot to discuss.
We performed our ritual: opened a bottle of wine and started gossiping about others.
Linda told me a story of this girl, Mary, who went to university with us. She had just broken up with her boyfriend after he cheated on her. …
Have you ever gone on a date with someone you are not attracted to?
In my second year of university, I was tired of partying. All the drinking and meeting new people took an enormous amount of energy from me. At that time, I decided I wanted to focus on my studies. When I settled down, I also became more open to the idea of a serious relationship.
So my best friend, Linda, introduced me to her classmate, Matt.
Matt was an adorable guy. He was serious about his studies, had ambitious views for his career, and was incredibly kind…
Have you ever felt like a superhero?
I have. It has nothing to do with saving the world and fighting the bad guys. No, for me, being a superhero is when you feel like you can conquer the world.
It happens whenever I have a “Superhero Day.”
On these days, I check all the boxes on my to-do list. Usually, these boxes are writing articles, studying German, and cleaning up the house. In a better scenario, I still have time to read a book and exercise.
Unfortunately, not all days are like this. In this case, you have two options…
Understanding my sexual fantasies was a complex process.
As a woman, I face many restrictions, especially when it comes to sex. This oppression happens subtly.
It’s on the way I dress because if I dress too sexy for work, I’m not confident; I’m a slut. It’s on the way men talk about other women because listening to my male friends objectifying women makes me behave more conservatively. It’s even on the way sexy women are portrayed on television because they rarely get the happy ending.
It’s like a sexy woman is a threat to society.
As a result, I’ve grown…
Recently, my relationship is going through a challenging time.
One year ago, my boyfriend, Jonathan, started a new job. Instead of going for a traditional corporate life, he decided to work for a startup. It is a job with a higher risk because anything can happen to the company, and they can go bankrupt overnight. However, it has more benefits: if the startup grows exponentially, Jonathan will grow with them.
It was a life-changing decision.
During the past year, Jonathan has worked like crazy. He works around 50 hours per week and rarely takes a holiday completely free of work…