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7 Habits that Transformed Me into a Cool Person
What does it mean to be cool?
Mary chose the last girl of her team: “Carol!” I stood there by myself, my cheeks red and my palms sweaty.
I was the last one. Again.
Unlike Mary, I didn’t have a pleasant experience in high school. I wasn’t a “cool girl.” No, I was the nerdy girl who liked to play video games, read books and had good grades. I was the girl who got picked last to play sports.
It was humiliating: the frustration of feeling like you don’t fit in. You’re wrong.
My life changed when I went to university. I was sick of being ignored, misunderstood, and unappreciated. Now, I had a white page and could write the story I wanted.
It was about time I became the cool girl.
I started with a list of behaviors I wanted to change. During the first semester, I made new friendships, received invitations to parties, learned new skills, and met parts of me that I didn’t even know existed.
For the first time, I lived life to its fullest.
Here are the habits that finally made me a cool girl:
1. Never take things personally
Here’s a harsh truth: people are too busy with their lives to care about you.
When Mary didn’t choose me in gym class, it wasn’t because she didn’t like me. It was because she wanted to win the game. It wasn’t about me: it was about her goals.
People who believe others mean to hurt them have a negative perspective on life. You get defensive, never forgive others, and your relationships become fragile.
When you put others’ perspectives on the center, you become more empathic. This mindset helps you understand that there are always two sides to one story (your side is not necessarily the whole picture).
People don’t wrong you on purpose. Nobody has an evil plan to bring you down. Remember: your worst judge is always yourself.
2. Want others to do well
The way you perceive others is a reflection of yourself. I’m not talking about energy, manifestation, or the law of…
